On today’s episode, we have Big Life Journal co-founder Alexandra, and we are discussing all things growth mindset, how we can better promote this empowering mindset in ourselves and our children and how to best support our children during their “failures.”
What is a growth mindset is a concept developed by Dr. Carol Dwek, and she is a Stanford Psychologist. She wrote a book called Mindset. What the book outlines is that each individual has either a growth mindset or a fixed mindset.
A fixed mindset is a belief that you were born a certain way, and there is nothing you can do about it, so you might as well not try so hard.
While a growth mindset is a belief that you can always improve and always get better with practice, putting forth a lot of effort, using different strategies and asking for help. The belief that you’re not born with all the skillset you need to succeed but rather understanding that you can become stronger, smarter, and better in the area, you wish to be.
Children Developing a Growth Mindset
When children develop a growth mindset a lot of great things happen they start to enjoy learning, they have greater self-confidence, they are persistent and resourceful when working towards goals, they are open to asking for help and positively receive feedback.
The words and phrases we use with our children are the key components to their brain, developing a fixed growth mindset. How are we praising our children?
Phrases like “You’re so smart.” “You’re so talented.” As we may think that these are positive affirmations, these phrases may be creating limiting beliefs in our children and instead using phrases like, “You’re so good at figuring things out.” “You can do hard things” “I’m so proud of how much effort and commitment you put into this project.”
Praising the actions rather than the result, empowers our children to be able to withstand the hardships of life and enables them to achieve success in any arena they with, with the knowledge that work, dedication and a commitment to figuring it out anything is possible.
“Your failure is not your final destination” Alexandra talked about giving your children a high-five when they fail. What a concept?! Praising them for failing and getting back up empowers children with a growth mindset. Only when we fail can we learn and grow and “it takes time for our brains to learn a new concept.” Praising failure lets them know that failure is apart of life, and only when we fail can we learn how to become better.
As we all know, children do as we do, not as we say. Developing a growth mindset is the most impactful way you can empower your children with a growth mindset. Teaching and leading by example, communicating to them how you too have failed and what you did to overcome “failures.” Seeing every mishap as a learning and growing experience.
Alexandra recommended the book Mindset by Carol Dweck. I have the book on audible, and I would recommend the listen as well.
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